Narcisistic Nasties

What is a narcissist?

First things first, let’s identify what narcissism actually is. Most of us have heard the story from Greek mythology about Narcissus. He fell in love with his own image. Many people assume that narcissism is someone who is obsessed with themselves. This is true to a point but the bigger picture is that it is also a mental illness. Some people exhibit narcissism as learned behavior from the environment that they grew up in and do not actually have the mental illness. Either way, it is an extremely toxic character trait that borders on the likeness of a sociopath.

People with this illness are often very charming, they are the life of the party. They are funny and usually intelligent. These are the type of people that just sweep you off of your feet, fairytale style. Then behind closed doors they show their fangs. They are manipulative in such a crafty way that by the time you realize it their hooks are in you. They completely lack empathy but are able to feign it well enough for you to believe they care.

A person with this personality disorder or the character traits often requires a high level of praise and adoration. Much more than any one person can give, so they often have a “supply”. They surround themselves with people who can only see how great they are and constantly remind them of it. Because of this need they have difficulty remaining faithful. The damage that they leave goes far beyond the heartache of being cheated on. They destroy the self esteem and self image of others in order to keep them “obedient”.

A narcissistic parent causes an untold amount of damage that takes years to recover from. The poison seeps into your subconscious and destroys your self-worth while distorting your entire reality. There is a lack of personal identity because the narcissist dictated every area of your life. It can be difficult to explain to people what you have or even continue to experience. It’s difficult for you to understand it yourself.

A narcissistic parent works hard to isolate you in order to have more control. This includes causing separation through chaos and conflict with other family members, friends and coworkers. It is a painful and confusing tactic that you may not even realize is happening.

The only answer is hard boundaries and self-care. Detachment with love is often referring to love for yourself. If you are able to separate yourself from the situation, you are able to find healing and growth and even understanding of many things you experience or believe. Stepping away gives you a level of power that you never thought possible because you spent so many years having your power taken from you.

The purpose of this blog is to bring you the necessary information needed for healing and freedom.

I am a writer and an ordained minister. I grew in very toxic environments. After prolonged intensive abuse I now have C-PTSD. I have overcome so many obstacles and been able to heal and grow by facing my past and processing it in a healthy way. I am still a work in progress but I have come farther than I ever thought would be possible.

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